I’m the very beginning of Gen X, and you’re right about Paul Rubins and Sinead O’Connor. Robin Williams too. But the one I remember like you do him is John Lennon. The whole world stopped. I was laying in bed listening to the radio and I was devastated...for a long time.
There is a famous person I don’t remember who said something like grief is the love you carry for that person that you didn’t get to finish giving them. I like that perspective. It seems especially true with volatile relationships. Sometimes those people were hard to love or we didn’t know quite how to go about it. Sort of like trying to hug broken glass.
Anyway, thanks for sharing your thoughts. They always inspire my own 😊
Wait and see what it feels like at 70. Grief is a daily occurrence. Parents and many family are long gone. Your peers and the people that built your world are dying. The famous and not so famous that filled your life with music, wisdom, and joy are leaving us daily. So, yeah, I get it.
Ah, Charlotte, as someone twice your age (and then some) I feel your pain. And especially today as two people we have grown to know and love announced they are splitting up, which is its own form of grief. One thing I know to be true, each episode of grief brings up the feelings of previous losses so it compounds to kick you in the chest. Sending hugs to you.
I am sorry for your losses, but this is a part of life that we all must deal with. At 77, I have experienced the loss of a whole generation of my family, and I am now the oldest person in it. They were fantastic people, my parents and aunts and uncles and older cousins, and now they are gone. We all must deal with death as we age, it is a fact of life.
I was also concerned about your ache and pains. You are way too young for that, you sound more like someone my age. I hope you are seeing qa doctor about it.
Take care and focus on why you still have and in particular on the younger people in your life. While old people die every day, even more people are born to take their place. Help them to grow strong.
Indeed. We feel as if we actually KNOW these people because they're such a big part in our lives. It makes no rational sense (I mean, we didn't really know them; we never met them; they never knew who we are or how they affected our lives), but still it hurts. I remember crying when Lady Diana died. I mean, I'm not even British! And yet it was so shocking. Which brings me to this: While most of us are not famous, we all touch others' lives in ways we may not know. So be kind to everyone. When we die, let's hope we've lived in a way that someone out there who we never even met, mourns our passing.
Thank you, Charlotte. I’m 71, & death is a fairly constant thought & companion, both for myself & my loved ones. It is bittersweet to have a life well lived & see it growing shorter every day. I want to continue to love my kids & grandkids & see their lives unfold, forever, but of course that can’t happen.
I for one (& only if it would benefit you) would be interested in your thoughts regarding your mother as I too had a fractious & painful relationship with mine. She taught me much about how NOT to parent.
I’m the very beginning of Gen X, and you’re right about Paul Rubins and Sinead O’Connor. Robin Williams too. But the one I remember like you do him is John Lennon. The whole world stopped. I was laying in bed listening to the radio and I was devastated...for a long time.
There is a famous person I don’t remember who said something like grief is the love you carry for that person that you didn’t get to finish giving them. I like that perspective. It seems especially true with volatile relationships. Sometimes those people were hard to love or we didn’t know quite how to go about it. Sort of like trying to hug broken glass.
Anyway, thanks for sharing your thoughts. They always inspire my own 😊
Wait and see what it feels like at 70. Grief is a daily occurrence. Parents and many family are long gone. Your peers and the people that built your world are dying. The famous and not so famous that filled your life with music, wisdom, and joy are leaving us daily. So, yeah, I get it.
Ah, Charlotte, as someone twice your age (and then some) I feel your pain. And especially today as two people we have grown to know and love announced they are splitting up, which is its own form of grief. One thing I know to be true, each episode of grief brings up the feelings of previous losses so it compounds to kick you in the chest. Sending hugs to you.
I am sorry for your losses, but this is a part of life that we all must deal with. At 77, I have experienced the loss of a whole generation of my family, and I am now the oldest person in it. They were fantastic people, my parents and aunts and uncles and older cousins, and now they are gone. We all must deal with death as we age, it is a fact of life.
I was also concerned about your ache and pains. You are way too young for that, you sound more like someone my age. I hope you are seeing qa doctor about it.
Take care and focus on why you still have and in particular on the younger people in your life. While old people die every day, even more people are born to take their place. Help them to grow strong.
Indeed. We feel as if we actually KNOW these people because they're such a big part in our lives. It makes no rational sense (I mean, we didn't really know them; we never met them; they never knew who we are or how they affected our lives), but still it hurts. I remember crying when Lady Diana died. I mean, I'm not even British! And yet it was so shocking. Which brings me to this: While most of us are not famous, we all touch others' lives in ways we may not know. So be kind to everyone. When we die, let's hope we've lived in a way that someone out there who we never even met, mourns our passing.
Thank you, Charlotte. I’m 71, & death is a fairly constant thought & companion, both for myself & my loved ones. It is bittersweet to have a life well lived & see it growing shorter every day. I want to continue to love my kids & grandkids & see their lives unfold, forever, but of course that can’t happen.
I for one (& only if it would benefit you) would be interested in your thoughts regarding your mother as I too had a fractious & painful relationship with mine. She taught me much about how NOT to parent.
I so appreciate your thoughts & perspective.