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I'd go further; it doesn't matter where it's trad male / trad wife, lesbian, gay, any kind of polycule or any other relationship. If it makes youall happy, thats nice. If not, Im happy to offer my condolences.

Apart from that, it's none of my / our business.

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OMG, yes! THIS! Honestly, if someone wants a "traditional" marriage, what does it matter to me? Living together? Kids? No kids? Love is love. And yep, I'm definitely on board with Walz: "Mind your own damn business!"

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Bravo!!!

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Seems that so many of those folks like Vance and his ilk think "freedom" means the freedom to impose their will on everyone else. Serious gaslighting.

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Related: I have pondered for decades and still don’t understand how someone else’s marriage has a negative effect on one’s own. How does gay marriage devalue or damage a heterosexual marriage? Do their marriages only have enough meaning if there are fewer marriages in the country? What the actual fuck? The brain, it bleeds trying to comprehend the nonsense.

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Marriage is important to two people who are committed to each other for life, not until the oxytocin wears off.

Two people who have invested themselves into a commitment, and invested their assets, their fortunes into a joint venture, find no protection when one dies, or one decides to terminate the relationship.. How does one retrieve an investment in home, vehicles, even furniture?

And if one partner dies, what happens to the home and property? Legally it goes to the next of kin, and the next of kin might be someone who disapproved of the relationship, disowning them, not communicating with them or even harassing them.

There are nine community property states in the United States:

Arizona, California, Idaho, Louisiana, Nevada, New Mexico, Texas, Washington, and Wisconsin.

In these states, marital assets are considered jointly owned and must be split equally in the event of a divorce. This includes real estate, personal property, savings, retirement accounts, and debts acquired during the marriage

The surviving spouse in such a state automatically becomes the heir of all property.

Otherwise the property is distributed per a will, and how many have one ( I do), and if no will the property goes to surviving kin.

Imagine sharing everything with another person for 20 years, including home, vehicles, savings and checking accounts, and one dies sans will, and a homophobic relative is the next of kin. Guess who is out on the street homeless and broke.

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This is so, so good. Full disclosure here, I admit I find trad wives strangely interesting, in a rubber necking @ a car accident kind of way, since it’s so 1950’s bizarre. I’m 72, & when graduating from high school, this was the acceptable model in my small Montana home town. My guidance counselor actually told me that if I “HAD” to go to college, make it a small one so I could more easily find a husband. My feminism was born that instant, as in WTAF?

Curious if these trad wives will wake up one day & wonder what could’ve been.

Back to your point though, we just need to mind our own business.

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